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Single Mothers by Choice

Your Family. Your Timeline.
Your Terms.

Join thousands of empowered women who have chosen motherhood on their own path. Xytex has helped single mothers by choice build their families since 1975.

Fastest-Growing Family Type
Identity Disclosed
Free Genetic Counseling
Before You Begin

Is This Right For Me?

Becoming a single mother by choice is a significant decision. Here are some questions many women consider.

Is This Right For Me?

  • Am I ready to be a single parent?
  • Do I have a support system in place?
  • Have I considered how I'll talk to my child about their origins?
  • Am I emotionally prepared for this journey?

Financial Considerations

  • Can I afford the initial costs of donor sperm and procedures?
  • Have I budgeted for childcare as a single parent?
  • Do I have emergency savings?
  • Have I explored financing options?

Timeline Expectations

  • How long might it take to conceive?
  • Am I prepared for multiple cycles if needed?
  • Have I discussed timing with my healthcare provider?
  • Do I understand my fertility timeline?
Your Donor Selection

Choosing a Donor as a Single Woman

Identity Disclosure Matters

55.6% of SMBCs prefer identity disclosure. All our donors since 2017 are identity disclosed, giving your child the option to connect at 18.

55.6% prefer ID disclosure

Select Without Partner Input

Choose traits that matter to you—ethnicity, education, interests, personality. Our detailed profiles help you find your ideal match.

Plan for Future Siblings

Many SMBCs want siblings from the same donor. Purchase extra vials upfront with free storage for up to 3 years.

The Process

Your SMBC Journey

Here's what your path to motherhood might look like. Every journey is unique, but this gives you an idea of the process.

Month 1

Research & Select Donor

Browse donor profiles, review medical histories, and choose your ideal match. Take advantage of our 7-day free trial.

Month 2

Order Vials & Schedule

Purchase vials, coordinate with your clinic or prepare for at-home insemination, and schedule your procedure.

Month 3+

Insemination Cycles

Begin your insemination journey. Most women try 3-6 cycles. Track ovulation and stay connected with your care team.

Success!

Pregnancy

Celebrate your positive test! We're here to support you through pregnancy and beyond. Report your birth to us!

Planning Ahead

Planning for Future Siblings

Many SMBCs want the option of future children from the same donor. Here's how to plan ahead.

Why Buy Extra Vials?

  • Guarantee same donor for future siblings
  • Donors can retire at any time
  • Popular donors sell out quickly
  • Locks in today's pricing

Our Storage Benefits

  • Free storage for 1 year with 4+ vials
  • Free storage for 3 years with 8+ vials
  • 50% buyback on unused vials
  • Flexible storage extensions available
You're Not Alone

Support & Community

Connect with other single mothers by choice and find the support you need for this journey.

Download Our Free SMBC Guide

A comprehensive guide covering everything from choosing a donor to talking to your child about their origins.

Download Free Guide
Common Questions

Frequently Asked Questions

This is a deeply personal decision. Consider your emotional readiness, financial stability, support system, and desire for parenthood. Many women find it helpful to speak with a counselor who specializes in fertility decisions, connect with other SMBCs, and thoroughly research the process before committing.

Ready to Write Your Story?

Thousands of women have chosen to become mothers on their own terms. Your journey starts with a single step.